I have a habit of reading blogs, I cover some 25-30 different blogs a day. By doing this I gain an insight about what people are thinking, what they want to read, and sometimes I get to have a few good laughs. A couple of days back, on one of this auspicious occasions I came across a new blog (hardly a month old with only 2 posts in it) where an important topic was being discussed. No no, let me rephrase it, a very important topic was being elaborated and dissected in open public. Now, even though I knew that curiosity kills the cat, I felt no harm since I am nowhere related to a feline being. The discussion was about how women are perfect and men are otherwise!
There were a few numbered bullet points put up over there to justify the fact that women are way better than men and are thus perfect. People who have read Think and and The Long Drawn Discussion would know my view points about women. And I have earned many accolades from women for my thoughts and views about womanhood in general. But very honestly, after reading the bullet points and the comments on that blog, I felt a little disturbed. Not because someone had tried to blemish the character of men which includes me, I wouldn't have cared less if that was the case, but I was disturbed because of the fact that there was so much of misconception in that post. I thought, "do really women think of us that way!". So I thought I'll explain and elaborate those same numbered bullet points from a neutral viewpoint and not a feminist one. So here it is:
1. Women are more understanding than the men. You don’t have to speak to tell them that you are feeling sad or happy; they can tell you by looking once at you.
Well, I guess The Long Drawn Discussion would be an apt reply for this. Moreover, I would like to say that it how your relationship is with a particular women which decides whether she can understand you in the aforementioned manner or not. You cannot expect the same from any women you meet on the street, if she can do that then take my word for it, she is not understanding, she is a female reincarnation of Nostradamus.
2. Women become mature at an early stage as compared to men. If you don’t believe me then ask for the view points of a girl and a guy about a relationship and you will get the difference ;)
Definitely women are more matured then men, one can count on it anytime. But does being immature accounts to the fact of one being better than the other? A comparison such as this is a sign of immaturity of the first degree. Does that makes the author (who is of course a girl) inferior in any way, NO! At a certain point of time in life you would wish that you would have remain immature forever.
3. A confidante and an accomplice, you can always dump any secret in a woman and she will always listen to you.
Why of course, where else do you think the women get their daily dose of gossips! She would listen to you no doubt, but the very next moment she would go ahead and speak with the most amazing blather.
4. Only a woman can play the role of a friend, a mother, a sister, a guide, a wife, a partner, an advisor. So many roles she plays at same time.
Well, well, well, does the women also plays the role of a father, a philosophers, a brother, a husband? But just because she is none of these does not make her in any way inferior than a man? I have seen an abusive mother, a promiscuous wife, does that deface the image of a woman, NO! A man, like a woman, has different roles to play in life.
5. Only a woman loves without any conditions.
Oh boy! That was simply great and hilarious. I say no one, absolutely no one in this world can love someone without any conditions. If anyone can do that, then that person is either a sage or a mahatma or in the terminal stage or insanity, or maybe he/she watches too much of those mushy mushy Bollywood movies.
And now ladies and gentlemen, the final numbered bullet point that puts the nail on the coffin for the fate of a man.
6. Women know how to take control of their emotions and feelings, they know when to move on and leave the past in the past whereas men can’t do it. (try to recall how many times you called up your ex-girlfriend to know what she is doing now).
Errr, dumping a guy who cared about you, who stood by your side when you needed him, and then leaving him high and dry in the middle of the road is not moving on, it's still called dumping. It is not taking control of your emotions, rather it is the proof of absence of emotions and feelings. Does that makes a woman perfect? I don't think so.
To the author of that blog, if you ever read this: Only a fool would draw a comparison such as this. Just because you have seen certain imperfect men does not mean that you can generalize men, it only means that you were unfortunate enough not to see the goodness in your Father or your Brother. Do you know that most of the brothels in India are run by women? Don't you think that a woman is a woman's greatest enemy? If a woman can react when when someone enters her territory, why is a man called a chauvinist when he does the same?
If those are the points you put up to show the imperfections in a man than you would really have to work hard on it to prove your point beyond your friends and in that case this man is very happy to remain imperfect, but is quite unwilling to let go of his precious emotions and feelings.